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Easing Out of the Closet on the Down Low: 5 tips for being safe

Easing Out of the Closet on the Down Low: 5 tips for being safe

Jul 8, 2015

Let’s face it: sexuality is a complex thing. Not everyone knows they are born gay or straight right out of the vagina, or even at age 5 or 10 or 50. Whether you are newly out, straight but curious, or just can’t get that one time with your same-sex friend out of your mind, I have five tips if you are going in on the down low so you have a safe, good...

Disconnecting from Church – to Save Your Soul

Disconnecting from Church – to Save Your Soul

Feb 7, 2013

When I was in the closet, I was friends with a guy named Chad.  Chad lived in Canada, and he was struggling with whether it was God’s will that he come out of the closet or stay in it.  Of course, we didn’t refer to the issue in those rash terms: to Chad and I, the issue was about whether God was approving of us living a gay lifestyle or not. Both of us had...

Self-Esteem and the Way Religion has Screwed You Up

Self-Esteem and the Way Religion has Screwed You Up

Sep 16, 2012

I read these three words on a Christian friend’s Facebook page: You Are Worthy.  This ended up in a long debate on his FB post. Poor guy. If speaking those words feels like blasphemy, you’re in good company. For many of us raised in stricter faith traditions, our first gut reaction is more like, “Huh? I am not worthy. Only God is worthy!”  Even people who do...