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Love & Sex Q&A: Will Love Come?

Love & Sex Q&A: Will Love Come?

Apr 28, 2014

Dear Love & Sex Q&A, Q I’ve been dating a guy for the last six/seven months, he’s a really nice guy and all my friends and family like him.  My last partner was dreadful to me, but I loved him and stayed with him for years, putting up with his bullying ways, repeatedly cheating on me, along with his alcohol and drug issues.  I eventually...

Coming Out in my 40s and Never Dated a Man

Coming Out in my 40s and Never Dated a Man

Oct 31, 2013

QDear Love & Sex Q&A, I’ve dated girls all of my adult life, with one experience in high school which has left me with the lasting impression that guys are really for me. I’ve been single for two years after the breakdown and resulting divorce from my ex wife.  For the last couple of months I’ve been chatting with guys in gay chat...

Lack of Sex with Older Boyfriend

Lack of Sex with Older Boyfriend

Oct 3, 2013

Dear Love & Sex Q&A, Q My boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years now and although we are still in love, I am having a lot of doubts about our future. I am 33 years old and came out when I met my boyfriend. Obviously I experimented with men before taking the step to come out, but overall my experience is fairly limited. I fell...

Dating Scams

Dating Scams

Jul 24, 2013

Dear Love & Sex Q&A, QI’ve been very stupid.  I got involved with chatting a guy on line from overseas.  I developed an on-line friendship with him and went and visited him.  We had an amazing four days together.  I revisited him once more, met a few of his friends, and for me there were fireworks sexually and emotionally.   I completely fell...

Review: “I’m So Excited”

Review: “I’m So Excited”

Jul 20, 2013

Film maker and art-house legend,  Pedro Almodóvar has gone back to his comedy genre with this camp, frothy fun, and very gay-sex-romp of a film, “I’m so Excited.”   The film has taken on the English name after a fabulously raucous and energetic dance number to the classic Pointer Sisters track.  The original Spanish title is “Los amantes...

Love & Sex Q&A: Bad Behaving Boyfriend

Love & Sex Q&A: Bad Behaving Boyfriend

Jul 17, 2013

Dear Love & Sex Q&A: Q I’ve been seeing a guy for many years, he’s really nice and when we get together alone it’s lovely. However he’s rude around my friends, he constantly plays with his mobile phone, blanks the conversation he doesn’t like or agree with, and generally causes problems.  He has his own friends that...

Love & Sex Q&A: Open Relationship Stress

Love & Sex Q&A: Open Relationship Stress

May 22, 2013

QDear Q & A, I have been with my partner for nearly 8 years. For the last five we’ve had an open relationship, which I instigated because I felt things had got a little stale.  My partner accepted this, and apart from a few discreet affairs I’ve pretty much remained monogamous, and throughout the whole time my partner hasn’t gone...

Abercrombie & Bitch

Abercrombie & Bitch

May 14, 2013

“In every school there are the cool and popular kids, and then there are the not-so-cool kids.  We go after the cool kids.  We go after the attractive All-American kids with a great attitude and a lot of friends.  A lot of people don’t belong in our clothes and they can’t belong.  Are we exclusionary? Absolutely.” This statement has been...

How to Say “No” Nicely

How to Say “No” Nicely

May 14, 2013

We’ve all been there. We’ve felt a connection with someone, and as with the majority of dating nowadays, it often occurs online.  We’ve sent a few flirty messages on the dating site, exchanged emails and mobile numbers, and the flirty connections have continued, so much so that your phone has beeped at you more in the last week than in the whole of last month!...

Maintaining an Age-Disparity Relationship: From the Younger Man’s Perspective

Maintaining an Age-Disparity Relationship: From the Younger Man’s Perspective

Apr 25, 2013

In my role as a Dating and Relationship Coach I see a number of different clients come through my doors.   Age-disparity relationships are becoming more and more frequent and commonplace now-a-days. In the straight world it has been commonplace for women to be attracted to older men, and many settle down with the best hunter-gatherer she can find. This gives...