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My Gender? My Sexuality? Do I really need to explain?

My Gender? My Sexuality? Do I really need to explain?

Aug 22, 2016

Maybe you’ve seen this T-shirt… I think I want one … and I bet you know why. The message captures an all-too-common experience: the vague knot in our stomachs, the brace of fear, the incipient eye-roll when we know a question about our orientation, our gender, the people we are and the people we love is coming straight at us. Yes, I’m talking about...

What Bruce Jenner’s Interview Says About Privacy—His and Ours

What Bruce Jenner’s Interview Says About Privacy—His and Ours

May 6, 2015

The nail on my little finger is all sparkles: green mostly, but with glints of purple, peach and pink besides. I owe this burst of glitter to Sally Hansen Snow Globe polish, which my wife claims is the rightful domain of six-year-old girls. For me, it’s the first all-out expression of my genderfluid self—or, more precisely, the vibrant woman who lives in my...

Self-denial is not about denying who we are. It’s about following Divine Love.

Self-denial is not about denying who we are. It’s about following Divine Love.

Feb 18, 2015

Hang out for three days with 1,300 people like yourself, and—if you’re a writer, at least—it’s interesting to hear what words keep coming up. Over the long weekend at January’s Gay Christian Network conference, I shared a meal with companions from several of my worlds: trans/nonbinary people, Episcopalians, bridge builders across hot-button divides. I took part...