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CULTURE SAVVY

My Gender? My Sexuality? Do I really need to explain?

Posted by on Aug 22, 2016

Maybe you’ve seen this T-shirt… I think I want one … and I bet you know why. The message captures an all-too-common experience: the vague knot in our stomachs, the brace of...

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GOD-TALK

Intent versus Face Value: A Few (Shocking) Thoughts about the Bible

Posted by on Aug 23, 2016

I am terrified of a church that applies the texts of Scripture at face value, without a serious and involved consideration of the original audience, the socio-religious context...

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REAL LIFE

“Coming Out” Is Stepping Forward, Not “Going Back”

Posted by on Aug 3, 2016

“The tribe often thinks the visionary has turned his back on them. When, in fact, the visionary has simply turned his face to the future.” ― Ray A. Davis “Going back” in ex-gay...

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LOVE, SEX, FAMILY

Getting that Ring Won’t Change Your Life the Way You Hope it Will

Posted by on Jul 4, 2016

I have heard it said so many times before.  “As soon as I get married, I know all these things will change.” I’d like to invite all of us, and not just those of us that have...

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Intent versus Face Value: A Few (Shocking) Thoughts about the Bible

Intent versus Face Value: A Few (Shocking) Thoughts about the Bible

Aug 23, 2016

I am terrified of a church that applies the texts of Scripture at face value, without a serious and involved consideration of the original audience, the socio-religious context they lived within, and how that context differs from our own. “Take God at His word” sounds cute and all religiousy, but it’s actually quite reckless, extremely...

My Gender? My Sexuality? Do I really need to explain?

My Gender? My Sexuality? Do I really need to explain?

Aug 22, 2016

Maybe you’ve seen this T-shirt… I think I want one … and I bet you know why. The message captures an all-too-common experience: the vague knot in our stomachs, the brace of fear, the incipient eye-roll when we know a question about our orientation, our gender, the people we are and the people we love is coming straight at us. Yes, I’m talking about...

Not So Blessed: When disaster takes out your enemy

Not So Blessed: When disaster takes out your enemy

Aug 18, 2016

  I had to resist rubbing my hands together in a weak moment of delighted schadenfreude when I read that Tony Perkins — rabid right-wing, anti-gay leader of the Family Research Council — lost his house this past week in the floods of Louisiana. The same guy who preached that natural disasters were God’s vengeance on America for tolerating...

Invisible: HIV+ in Church

Invisible: HIV+ in Church

Aug 11, 2016

Daniel was out with his boyfriend the night he learned that he had contracted HIV. They had been dating for eight months, and had been friends for a year and a half prior to dating. They were sexually active, and Daniel trusted him completely. They had agreed to be monogamous, and he had no reason to believe his boyfriend would cheat. That night, however, there...

From the Scars of Evangelical Church to New Hope…

From the Scars of Evangelical Church to New Hope…

Aug 9, 2016

I grew up in the Evangelical Church. From moment I was a baby, I was in church every time the doors were open. We were taught about God’s love and grace ever since I could remember, but also that God was a God of holiness and wrath. You see, we could not talk about God’s love without also talking about his wrath. From a very young age, I sensed that...

“Coming Out” Is Stepping Forward, Not “Going Back”

“Coming Out” Is Stepping Forward, Not “Going Back”

Aug 3, 2016

“The tribe often thinks the visionary has turned his back on them. When, in fact, the visionary has simply turned his face to the future.” ― Ray A. Davis “Going back” in ex-gay speak means returning to the gay “lifestyle.” During my years as an ex-gay leader, I rarely said “lifestyle,” but “going back to being gay” was a stigmatizing description that the ex-gay...

Dear rich gay white man at the RNC…

Dear rich gay white man at the RNC…

Jul 22, 2016

Dear rich gay white man, I see you. I saw you on that stage tonight. Your incessant need for reassurance and acceptance by the very same people who would strip you of your rights if they could; it’s fooled you into thinking you’re one of them. I saw your education, your haircut, your suit, your whiteness, your privilege. They saw your money and influence. But...

Getting that Ring Won’t Change Your Life the Way You Hope it Will

Getting that Ring Won’t Change Your Life the Way You Hope it Will

Jul 4, 2016

I have heard it said so many times before.  “As soon as I get married, I know all these things will change.” I’d like to invite all of us, and not just those of us that have not been married before, to consider the following truths I believe will cause every present and future marriage to be the healthy and wonderful experience God had in mind when he...

Bold Support for LGBTs by the Communion of Churches in Indonesia

Bold Support for LGBTs by the Communion of Churches in Indonesia

Jun 27, 2016

The following is a translation of an unprecedented pastoral statement by the Communion of Churches in Indonesia (PGI) regarding LGBT+ people. The statement recommends, among others, an affirming view of LGBT+ people and a thoughtful interpretation of Scripture. This statement has generated heated debate and has resulted in accusations of PGI straying away from...

Orlando Made Me More “Out and Proud” Than Ever

Orlando Made Me More “Out and Proud” Than Ever

Jun 23, 2016

I kept asking myself why the Orlando Shooting affected me so much. It took me a few days, but I finally realized why. When 9/11 happened, it really didn’t do much to me. I was in 6th grade and only 11 years old. It didn’t make sense to me, I couldn’t really understand it, and I had only been on a plane once before. Yet, adults all over the world were...