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Bachelor Food: Saturday Morning Coconut Pancakes

Posted by on Feb 7, 2017

It’s hard to write when you’re full. And that’s one thing these coconut pancakes do: fill you up. It’s all the fiber in them, I think. But they’re...

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GOD-TALK

Many are Called but Few are Chosen: Making it happen or waiting for God?

Posted by on Sep 30, 2016

In the world we live in today where so many of us are constantly goal setting, have you ever taken the time to wonder what kind of goals guys like Moses, David, and Joseph set? You...

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REAL LIFE

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Posted by on Feb 13, 2017

It’s the new year. It literally feels like it’s been several months and it’s just February. A lot has happened in a short amount of time. I closed on the sale of my home of six...

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LOVE, SEX, FAMILY

Stop Looking for Mr Right

Posted by on Oct 26, 2016

Today a friend took the gutsy step of publicly posting that he was back in the dating game, and thought that with his large pool of friends on Facebook, he might have better luck...

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Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Feb 13, 2017

It’s the new year. It literally feels like it’s been several months and it’s just February. A lot has happened in a short amount of time. I closed on the sale of my home of six years at the end of December. Started both a new job and a relationship at the beginning of January. Ended that relationship at the end of January. Got a therapist, started Yoga and Tai...

Bachelor Food: Saturday Morning Coconut Pancakes

Bachelor Food: Saturday Morning Coconut Pancakes

Feb 7, 2017

It’s hard to write when you’re full. And that’s one thing these coconut pancakes do: fill you up. It’s all the fiber in them, I think. But they’re tasty, easy to make — and grain-free. So here’s how this little adventure started out. I love my carbs. Pastas, pancakes, pastries, crusty French bread… They’re...

Review: A.W. Strouse’s “BBC – The Black Boyfriend Compendium”

Review: A.W. Strouse’s “BBC – The Black Boyfriend Compendium”

Jan 30, 2017

A new memoir by occasional IMPACT contributor A.W. Strouse, B.B.C. (The Black Boyfriend Compendium), examines the various (14) black lovers he has had in his life. It was an entertaining read that left me wanting more, in more ways than one. The narrative recalls some of the negative experiences the writer has had with men, and was partly inspired by Oscar...

Sexy

Sexy

Jan 16, 2017

You know what’s really sexy? A person who’s 100% comfortable with themselves. And you know what’s really funny? It is just as time consuming and difficult to learn to accept yourself as it is to pretend to be someone else. The only difference is – with self acceptance, one day, it’s not hard anymore. One day, you feel like your sexiest, strongest self just...

Review: “Merlí”

Review: “Merlí”

Jan 11, 2017

Spanish television, in general, is not that great. Sure, La que se avecina is entertaining, and Polonia from Catalunya and Vaya Semanita from the Basque Country are actually much funnier than Saturday Night Live usually is. In fact, until now, I’ve only been able to get into one Spanish series, the horrible yet wonderful Física o química (Physics or Chemistry),...

Words

Words

Jan 9, 2017

“What has been seen cannot be unseen, what has been learned cannot be unknown. You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. You can grow from it. You can be made stronger. You can use that strength to change your life, to change your future.” — C.A. Woolf There are many universal human experiences, one of which is learning. Regardless of age, ability,...

8 for 80: Honoring LGBTQ Pioneer Poet Louie Crew Clay on his 80th Birthday

8 for 80: Honoring LGBTQ Pioneer Poet Louie Crew Clay on his 80th Birthday

Dec 9, 2016

Celebrating the 80th birthday of LGBTQ Pioneer and Poet, Louie Crew Clay. Forty years ago, when the Church laughed at the idea that homosexuals could be included in the community of faith, Louie Crew penned the words that now seem self-evident and commonplace: “All Christian wholeness demands affirmation of God ordained sexuality.” Seeking to secure...

World AIDS Day. Live Aware.

World AIDS Day. Live Aware.

Dec 1, 2016

  December 1st is World AIDS Day, a day dedicated to remembering those lost to HIV/AIDS infection around the world. But it is also a day for raising awareness, for reminding all of us to live our lives responsibly, safely. Fast Facts More than 1.2 million people in the US are living with HIV, and 1 in 8 of them don’t know it. From 2005 to 2014, the...

Holidays in Skinny Jeans

Holidays in Skinny Jeans

Nov 29, 2016

  File this one under “humor, mild” and “realness” and “masculinity” and “being.” I am thankful for skinny pants. I like the way they feel and look and am thankful they exist and that I’m wearing them right now. “Oh, Stan… stop being silly. How random!” Not completely. A couple of years ago… hell, maybe even a year ago… I wouldn’t have worn skinny pants....

Donald Trump, Meet Queen Esther. A plan for moving forward.

Donald Trump, Meet Queen Esther. A plan for moving forward.

Nov 14, 2016

I’ve spent a great deal of time this past week thinking about the Presidential election and the fallout from it. Like many in America, I am reeling from the uncertainty that this election has fostered. Before I get into my assessment of the situation and outline a course of action, I want to revisit an ancient story that very much parallels what we’re...