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Bachelor Food: Saturday Morning Coconut Pancakes

Posted by on Feb 7, 2017

It’s hard to write when you’re full. And that’s one thing these coconut pancakes do: fill you up. It’s all the fiber in them, I think. But they’re...

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GOD-TALK

Mama Bear God

Posted by on May 16, 2017

For some families, Mother’s Day is fun and frivolous, with kids’ homemade attempts at breakfast or heartfelt crafts. It may be bitter and resentful, with more empty wishes or...

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REAL LIFE

Choosing Intentional Rest

Posted by on Mar 13, 2017

As someone who has been in education for over 20 years, spring break has always meant having time to rest, as well as time to travel and visit family. This year, however, the...

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LOVE, SEX, FAMILY

Naked and Unashamed

Posted by on May 20, 2017

I was raised in the evangelical church. To be frank, the evangelical church is an awful place to learn about sex. One of my friends used to summarize what we were taught with the...

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Naked and Unashamed

Naked and Unashamed

May 20, 2017

I was raised in the evangelical church. To be frank, the evangelical church is an awful place to learn about sex. One of my friends used to summarize what we were taught with the line “Sex is evil. Sex is bad. Save it for the one you love.” It’s funny, yet so terribly sad. Add to this situation that I was gay. Growing up gay in the evangelical church added...

Mama Bear God

Mama Bear God

May 16, 2017

For some families, Mother’s Day is fun and frivolous, with kids’ homemade attempts at breakfast or heartfelt crafts. It may be bitter and resentful, with more empty wishes or regrets than actual memories. It  may be the apex  of celebration – like for my friends who on Friday finalized adoption of their twin boys. But the holiday may also be gut wrenching, for...

Walking Away and Finding My Way Back: A Letter to Evangelicalism

Walking Away and Finding My Way Back: A Letter to Evangelicalism

Mar 21, 2017

Dear Evangelicalism, First of all, I love you. I fell in love with you in third grade when my parents ventured out of my grandparents’ tiny but beloved Lutheran church that was filled mostly with people over the age of 60, the faint scent of flowery perfume and spicy shaving cream lingering long after the sanctuary emptied. I met you in the basement of a...

Choosing Intentional Rest

Choosing Intentional Rest

Mar 13, 2017

As someone who has been in education for over 20 years, spring break has always meant having time to rest, as well as time to travel and visit family. This year, however, the “resting” has taken on a new meaning for me. In the past, rest was wasting time in front of the TV or browsing the Internet or even taking a nap. This spring break, my plan is to be more...

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Dying Constructs and Self-Awareness

Feb 13, 2017

It’s the new year. It literally feels like it’s been several months and it’s just February. A lot has happened in a short amount of time. I closed on the sale of my home of six years at the end of December. Started both a new job and a relationship at the beginning of January. Ended that relationship at the end of January. Got a therapist, started Yoga and Tai...

Bachelor Food: Saturday Morning Coconut Pancakes

Bachelor Food: Saturday Morning Coconut Pancakes

Feb 7, 2017

It’s hard to write when you’re full. And that’s one thing these coconut pancakes do: fill you up. It’s all the fiber in them, I think. But they’re tasty, easy to make — and grain-free. So here’s how this little adventure started out. I love my carbs. Pastas, pancakes, pastries, crusty French bread… They’re...

Review: A.W. Strouse’s “BBC – The Black Boyfriend Compendium”

Review: A.W. Strouse’s “BBC – The Black Boyfriend Compendium”

Jan 30, 2017

A new memoir by occasional IMPACT contributor A.W. Strouse, B.B.C. (The Black Boyfriend Compendium), examines the various (14) black lovers he has had in his life. It was an entertaining read that left me wanting more, in more ways than one. The narrative recalls some of the negative experiences the writer has had with men, and was partly inspired by Oscar...

Sexy

Sexy

Jan 16, 2017

You know what’s really sexy? A person who’s 100% comfortable with themselves. And you know what’s really funny? It is just as time consuming and difficult to learn to accept yourself as it is to pretend to be someone else. The only difference is – with self acceptance, one day, it’s not hard anymore. One day, you feel like your sexiest, strongest self just...

Review: “Merlí”

Review: “Merlí”

Jan 11, 2017

Spanish television, in general, is not that great. Sure, La que se avecina is entertaining, and Polonia from Catalunya and Vaya Semanita from the Basque Country are actually much funnier than Saturday Night Live usually is. In fact, until now, I’ve only been able to get into one Spanish series, the horrible yet wonderful Física o química (Physics or Chemistry),...

Words

Words

Jan 9, 2017

“What has been seen cannot be unseen, what has been learned cannot be unknown. You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. You can grow from it. You can be made stronger. You can use that strength to change your life, to change your future.” — C.A. Woolf There are many universal human experiences, one of which is learning. Regardless of age, ability,...