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Review: Almodóvar’s “¡Átame!” (“Tie me Up! Tie me Down!”, 1990)

Posted by on Dec 24, 2015

Leave it to Pedro Almodóvar to direct a film that would lead to a change in the American movie rating system. In his 1990 film Tie Me Up! Tie Me Down! (the name is improved in...

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GOD-TALK

An Introvert’s Guide to Following Your Peace

Posted by on Feb 8, 2016

Today, another moral dilemma for an introvert. One of the guys in the company I work for put in his notice, and the managers want to do a “going away lunch” for him...

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REAL LIFE

Making Friends as an Adult is Hard

Posted by on Feb 4, 2016

Kristin and I sat in our usual booth stirring swirls of cream into our coffee cups. The background noise of the diner receded to a low murmur and I made my move. “Kristin, I’ve...

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LOVE, SEX, FAMILY

Thoughts on a Queer Christmas: 5 Golden Rings … or not

Posted by on Dec 30, 2015

What do you do when you don’t get the true love, much less the five gold rings? This is, more or less, the question that prompted me to blog this Christmastide on queer...

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An Introvert’s Guide to Following Your Peace

An Introvert’s Guide to Following Your Peace

Feb 8, 2016

Today, another moral dilemma for an introvert. One of the guys in the company I work for put in his notice, and the managers want to do a “going away lunch” for him — today. Short notice. And it kinda freaks me out. I really don’t want to go. I hardly know the guy, I hate work-related social events, and especially without adequate time...

Making Friends as an Adult is Hard

Making Friends as an Adult is Hard

Feb 4, 2016

Kristin and I sat in our usual booth stirring swirls of cream into our coffee cups. The background noise of the diner receded to a low murmur and I made my move. “Kristin, I’ve accepted the job at Riverside and I’m moving to New York City.” My eyes grew hot with tears as I futilely tried to lock my trembling lips in place to give off the appearance of courage...

Not Especially: Changing one word in our prayers can make a huge difference

Not Especially: Changing one word in our prayers can make a huge difference

Jan 12, 2016

There’s a thing I do whenever I’m the one leading the prayers of the people that I don’t think I’ve ever really talked about before, but it came up at lunch after church this past Sunday and I found myself expressing myself in this way: I said, “I take deep theological exception to the word especially.” Until that moment, I...

LGBT Mormons: Finding Your Faith When Your Faith Leaves You

LGBT Mormons: Finding Your Faith When Your Faith Leaves You

Jan 8, 2016

LGBT Mormons Discuss LDS Membership Changes on Gay Marriage and Children The All Souls Unitarian Church, in New York, NY,  will host a panel discussion with gay and lesbian Latter-Day Saint (LDS) members on Sunday, January 31 at 1pm. The title of the panel is “Finding Faith When Your Faith Leaves You.” The four panelists include Affirmation senior...

Thoughts on a Queer Christmas: 5 Golden Rings … or not

Thoughts on a Queer Christmas: 5 Golden Rings … or not

Dec 30, 2015

What do you do when you don’t get the true love, much less the five gold rings? This is, more or less, the question that prompted me to blog this Christmastide on queer perspectives. I keep coming across LGBT folk who are single and miserable about it, to the point of depression and self-destructive thoughts. I suppose I know something of these thoughts,...

Thoughts on a Queer Christmas: Holy Innocents & the Politics of Power

Thoughts on a Queer Christmas: Holy Innocents & the Politics of Power

Dec 29, 2015

Queer Christmas Day Four – Holy Innocents The Feast of the Holy Innocents is another odd day in Christmastide, another horrific story of death during the season of Incarnation. There’s much to say about this brief episode in the second chapter of Matthew’s Gospel. Although there’s little historical evidence to support Matthew’s...

Thoughts on a Queer Christmas: The Feast of Stephen

Thoughts on a Queer Christmas: The Feast of Stephen

Dec 27, 2015

Each year, I’m taken with the arrangement of the church calendar, that the First Day of Christmas, we remember and celebrate the Incarnation of God, followed by the the Second Day of Christmas (Dec 26), the Feast of Stephen, the first Christian to be martyred for his faith in scripture. It’s as if to say, here is God in the flesh, and here is just...

Review: Almodóvar’s “¡Átame!” (“Tie me Up! Tie me Down!”, 1990)

Review: Almodóvar’s “¡Átame!” (“Tie me Up! Tie me Down!”, 1990)

Dec 24, 2015

Leave it to Pedro Almodóvar to direct a film that would lead to a change in the American movie rating system. In his 1990 film Tie Me Up! Tie Me Down! (the name is improved in translation from the plain Spanish “Tie me!”), things got so hot that the MPAA wanted to give the film a “X” rating. As the film is far from pornography, the studio handling the...

Conversations With an Evangelical: “God did not make you that way!”

Conversations With an Evangelical: “God did not make you that way!”

Dec 15, 2015

Two years ago she and I got into a discussion, and after a while of mutual discomfort, she threw her hand in my face, and declared emphatically: “If you don’t know Jesus then I have nothing to say to you!” The words were spit out of her mouth with such condemnation, and before I had a chance to respond, she turned her back to me and stormed away. That moment in...

Inwards and Outwards

Inwards and Outwards

Dec 11, 2015

Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart… live in the question ― Rainer Maria Rilke Nearly two months have passed since the last time I felt compelled to write publicly, and while I’ve written much in that time, most of it has been for me. Settling into a new place, a new life, a new way of being — it takes energy and focus. Acclimating...